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A woman's dignity

Letter to the Editor

Published: Thursday, February 2, 2012

Updated: Thursday, February 2, 2012 22:02

Dear Christopher Damian, Andrew Lynch, and Samantha Stempky:

I'm sure that I speak for many of my fellow Catholic women in saying that I found your letter in The Observer to be both insulting and upsetting. I take very serious offense in being told that, by choosing to take birth control, I have somehow made myself less of a woman and have sacrificed my dignity.

It is very discouraging that there are still people who believe that a woman's dignity is somehow tied to her ability and desire to produce children. Why shouldn't my dignity be evaluated on my intelligence? On my determination and drive? On my kindness and loyalty? Who I am as a person is not in any way related to the reproductive state of my uterus.

I also take issue with how you described what I believe to be a responsible and healthy choice. As a law student, I am in no position to be raising a child and have chosen to save that responsibility until I will be able to provide (both emotionally and financially) for a family.

I have not "sterilized" myself, nor have I "[destroyed my] body's power to bring forth life." I have simply deferred the process until a time at which it would be responsible and healthy for all involved. This is an idea endorsed, I believe, in the Church's teaching of Natural Family Planning.

The most disturbing part of your letter, however, was in the statement that, as a woman on birth control, I am "sexually available to any man." This is insulting and more disturbing than I can even begin to express. I am "sexually available" to the man (or men) I choose. Period. The thought that "any man" now has access to my body simply because I am on birth control is dangerous, demeaning and incredibly infuriating.

My decision to take birth control has not made me "less," it has not sterilized me and it certainly has not given control of my body to anyone but me.

On behalf of all Catholic women, I would urge you to remember that.

Anne Reser

Class of 2011

Charlottesville, VA

Feb. 2 

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9 comments

Anonymous
Mon Feb 6 2012 22:16
"However, that is ridiculous."

Really? Such persuasive logic.

Anyways, it is one thing to argue that an action is wrong. It is another to judge that a person is going to hell.
To call abortion and murder wrong is one thing, to declare judgment on the state of one's soul is God's alone.

Don't confuse the two.

Anonymous
Mon Feb 6 2012 22:14
Who is judging? You completely missed the point. Have you ever heard of NFP?

Using artificial birth control negatively affects one aspect of the dignity of a woman's person because it separates the pleasure of sex from its function as a union of two souls in the sacrament of marriage. It allows the woman to be treated as an object.

It is not a judgement of the woman's soul or her overall dignity. It is simply a statement that this is a negative in one aspect.

Anonymous
Mon Feb 6 2012 20:40
So if a woman wants to have sex but doesn't want to get pregnant, this makes her less of a woman? I understand that this is the Catholic belief, and I understand why it is. However, that is ridiculous. Many lovely Christian women want to enjoy sex in their marriage but not get pregnant. Are Catholic woman not on contraceptives supposed to be superior? I myself am Catholic, not on birth control, and not married, but no one should label what a woman based on what she does inside her marriage. Or outside of it! Many lovely women have pre-marital sex. I am against pre-marital sex, but I would never consider myself as having more dignity than a woman who is okay with it. We shouldn't be able to judge. God should, and no one else but Him.
Anonymous
Mon Feb 6 2012 09:30
Michael,

Where does it say in your "ancient book" that physical pleasure is a "super-no-no?"

Your claim that anyone who holds a view that sex should be reserved for marriage is merely a "proxy [of] their parents" is absurd. Making accusations like that while you parrot the same tired and trite lines the media and entertainment industries barrage us with constantly is more than a little ironic. Where could any of these poor sheltered proxies have possibly experienced any "examples of difference?"

Obviously once they have the chance to benefit from impulse driven consequence free behavior via potential cancer inducing hormone therapy they will see the light. Thank you for sharing your unbridled cognitive power.

Anonymous
Sun Feb 5 2012 17:24
Catholic teaching does not hold that you have less dignity if you use contraception, but that contraception is inappropriate for one with such great innate dignity.

The suggestion that one's dignity should be identified by one's intelligence is deeply disconcerting. Human dignity is present equally in each member of the human race, whether that one has an IQ of 50 or 150. The contrary view very easily leads to eugenics and discrimination.

Michael L Norris
Sat Feb 4 2012 09:54
"the pleasure of sex without worrying about having a child"

I know, right? It clearly states, in our ancient book of moldy, patriarchal Jewish socio-cultural regulations rejiggered by Greek ghost philosophy, that pleasure of the body is a super-no-no. As we've been told, these bodies of ours and the obvious ends to which they can be put are not to be played with. Rather the opposite.

Any habit you enjoy? Prohibit it! Got a whole life ahead of you? Live for death! Ideological Opposite Day!

You can't argue with people like Christopher Damian, Andrew Lynch, and Samantha Stempky. In the first place, you're basically arguing by proxy with their parents, and their parents' parents, etc. They're media, essentially. So, it's a little like getting mad at the paper on which your job termination notice is printed. In the second and more important place, it's clear that they and you do not share the same warrant underlying psycho-social reality. Probably they haven't experienced enough examples of difference out of which to discover that theirs is not the only viable way of defining identities. Chances are, in a face-to-face encounter (where consequences obtain), they would be far less likely to voice these opinions. Or, at least, less likely to voice them so crassly.

Anonymous
Fri Feb 3 2012 15:33
Birth control is available to employees if a medical exception is requested by a physician. You are uninformed.

The reason people are so deeply offended is that they want to be able to have the pleasure of sex without worrying about having a child. They completely ignore the idea that they have the choice not to become sexually active if they want to avoid pregnancy because it interferes with their desires and they dislike being made aware of the fact that this type of behavior is considered to be sinful by the Church.

Anonymous
Fri Feb 3 2012 12:17
I think what gets left out of this conversation on both sides are the positive medical effects of birth control.

I myself am a Catholic woman, born and raised. I align myself with the moral values of the church.

My decision to take birth control is completely medical. The Pill offers benefits to me that other medications could not. "Birth Control" is only regulating your fertility if you are sexually active. I know that I am certainly not alone here, there are many women out there that take The Pill for reasons similar to mine. It does not cause me to act scandalously, nor does it encourage promiscuous behavior. Just because I take a little pink pill everyday, and have for many years, it does not mean that I am "sexually available to any guy."

As Anne says above, birth control has "not given control of my body to anyone but me."

The health care coverage concern reaches beyond supplying birth control. These pills offer more than simply a way to avoid pregnancy. The Pill regulates acne and other skin problems, physical pain and extreme blood loss associated with the menstrual cycle, irregular cycles, as well as other things. These are matters of womens' health, and those that need the type of medical benefits that The Pill provides should be given access to it.

When these problems don't directly effect you, it is easy to see birth control as an easy way around getting pregnant, but for me and women like me, it is so much more. Should my access to these pills that have improved my health be restricted simply because of my faith? I believe that God wants me to take care of what he created.

Anonymous
Thu Feb 2 2012 23:15
I speak for a lot of women here. You yourself resort to name calling and poor logic.

Anyways, the deeper issue is sex itself. What is it for, when is it ethical? Would you agree that it belongs to marriage alone? If you do agree with that, then your argument with these folks takes on a whole other tone. There's NFP in marriage, and then there's issues of discernment and conscience that some priests and theologians encourage among married people concerning the pill.

If you think sex is fine outside of marriage, then that's a whole other ball game. Of course you are going to disagree with these folks. You automatically start from different foundations. There's no common ground.

Anyways, the issue is that the university should not be forced to pay for your birth control. No religious organization should be forced to abandon its principles. If you want birth control, you know where to get it. ND is not a hospital. Trust me, there are better physicians and health providers out there.

Good for you, you study law. Go study natural law theory, Aquinas, and Augustine (yes, they are worthy of study).







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