Every week or so, Opinion columnist Zora Rodgers responds to anonymous advice submissions. To get advice, fill out this form.
Dear Domer, I did not feel anything after my romantic night at Zach Bryan. Do I even like men? Advice?
Dear Domer, if you didn’t have an “all night revival” with that man at Zach Bryan, then I may have some bad news for you. I, too, once wondered if I was gay after an Ohio State weekend rendezvous. Turns out I wasn’t talking to the right man. Just because one man didn’t satisfy you at a concert doesn’t make you a homosexual … I get the ick from people at concerts (myself included), so you could suffer from the same ailment as me. I suggest breaking things off with that man and finding higher quality ones. Like master’s and Ph.D. students. Just not my Ph.D. student. Hope this helps!
Dear Domer, my situationship from last fall spawned out of nowhere at a tailgate and personal space was NOT in the room with us. Now he won’t stop bringing me up to my friends ... I don’t think he would ever confess feelings to me since I rejected him last year, but now I’m really confused. I’m tempted to rekindle, but I’m scared to reach out first if even I don’t know how I feel ... Advice?
Dear Domer, this is a lot to unpack. You rejected him but you want to rekindle? Are you bored? Also, he’s a situationship for a reason, and in the past is where he shall stay. Not knowing how you feel is a feeling — uncertainty means no. If he was worth your time and it was the right thing for you, you’d be dating by now. Go find yourself a townie so you have a lesser chance of getting caught up again. <3
Dear Domer, a gay man tried to kiss me at the bar this weekend. What should I do?
Dear Domer, are we sure he’s gay? That’s not gay behavior. I think it’s weird and misleading when people who aren’t attracted to a certain sex pursue them anyway. It seems like a waste of time and energy. I hope you didn’t kiss him back. Those aren’t cute optics. You’re not a real beard if the man is out, but a PCOS one.
Dear Domer, I texted this guy on Snap a week ago. He responded then, but I’ve left him on delivered since. I feel deprived by the touch of a man. What should I do?
Dear Domer, no hate, but this is lowkey your fault. You can’t complain about being touch-deprived when you’re actively blocking your blessings. Hope this helps!
Dear Domer, all of my friends have romantic flings, situationships or actual real adult relationships. What should I do to not feel lonely?
Dear Domer, I struggle with this too. You are real and valid. The loneliness doesn’t go away, and I don’t care what people say, your fAmILy and FrIeNdS and platonic relationships will never fulfill that romantic urge. In the meantime, put yourself out there! Go out, go on dates, go on the apps and meet people. Holing yourself up in your room will only increase those feelings of loneliness, so be social as a distraction. xx.
Dear Domer, I introduced myself to a guy *twice* at Newfs, and he still doesn't remember me, I'm pretty sure. My friends tell me to go for it, but I feel like it’s beating a dead horse. Advice?
Dear Domer. Oh. I’m going to hold your hand gingerly when I say this. He remembers, unless he was blackout drunk both times, in which case, don’t go for him if that’s the case! Being white girl wasted is a red flag in men. If he didn’t show interest the first or second time, move on! His loss. You deserve someone who’s interested back, at the VERY LEAST. Wow, the bar is really in hell. And your friends might be preying on your downfall by encouraging you to beat a dead horse. Do some reflection on who really has your best interests at heart. xoxo.
Zora Rodgers is a senior at Notre Dame. She has a Ph.D. in clocking your tea and is about as much a doctor as a chiropractor. She also went to the Wendy Williams School of Journalism for her master’s. Zora is perfectly unqualified to answer your questions, and her favorite pastime is sticking her nose in places it doesn’t belong. You can reach her at zrodgers@nd.edu with your questions, comments, compliments or if you just want to be extra.
